Daughter: mommy, what can I do when something or a kid reminds me of the bad times, and makes me get scared all over again?
Me: Yes, sometimes that happens to me too. I think those bad memories will stay with you for a long time.
when you get those feelings, tell yourself: yes, that was a stressful and bad time for me but it is all over now. I need time to get better and I need to focus more on all the exciting, fun, and happy things that are coming my way. I am stronger and braver from those experiences. I am very proud of myself. I am a champion!
Daughter: mommy, I wish all grown ups can talk like you .
Me: why do you say that?
Daughter: Because you can help me believe that I am strong.
Me: Yes, you are strong! I love you!
I decided to blog about this topic when I noticed there are so many children going through lots of stressful situations at school. As parents, we want to help but we don’t know where to go for guidance and suggestions.
My child had been bullied at school, teased for having black hair, wearing clothes from different countries, having too many knit scarves, doing well in school, and the list goes on…
Speaking from experience, it is a good rule of thumb to keep stressful situations in the family. When too many people gets involved, it’s only more added stress. At least that is how it was for me. I have an introverted personality (If you haven’t noticed by now).
Speaking of introverts/extroverts, do you know your personality type? Do you know your child’s personality type? Here is a blog about an introduction to understanding your child’s temperament and brief explanation for how to parent children with each personality type. It’s a helpful information to know that there are different parenting styles for each personality type.
What if you want to help but, you don’t know how to do it? Ask the experts.
You can’t afford one? Neither can I!
What is the next best thing? Go check out their blog!
I like this blog from a Child Psychologist, Dr. Laura Hutchinson. Here she blogs about incorporating toys and games to help your child recognize different feelings and lean the skills for coping with stress.
When your child come home with problems form school. Calm down. Take a deep breath. Buckle your seat belt. You may be in for a ride and remember, your child’s needs come first. You can read about my experiences here, here, and here.
Your efforts will help your child understand they have their family support and that is the greatest confidence builder for any child.
This is the collection of blogs to help you and your child during stressful times.