For some time, I was thinking about what I can do to promote positive behaviors and decrease unwanted behaviors from my children. I believe there is a strong bond or link between confidence and positive behaviors. Why? A confident child believes they can accomplish things, is self-reliant, and believes in their own abilities.
Most parents understand, to some degree, the importance of building confidence and encouraging positive behaviors but, we get stuck on where do we look? How do we get started? or Who should we go for guidance?
How can we help our children build confidence?
- Believe in your child and show it
- Give praise and positive feedback
- Practice active and reflective listening
- Criticize bad behavior not your child
- Respect your child’s interests
- Accept any fears or insecurities
- Encourage independence
- Laugh with your child
- Focus on your child’s successes
Dr. Laura Hutchinson, Child Psychologist and Play Therapist wrote a wonderful article on her blog about Promoting Positive Behavior. This is an easy read blog, filled with helpful information.
- State limit
- Give a warning
- Enforce the consequence
- Structuring skill
- Empathetic listening skill
- Imaginary play skill
- Limit setting skill
3. Having realistic expectations
I hope this gave you some directions for encouraging confidence and promoting positive behavior in children.